No, I did not. All I did was make a comparison. It’s like complaining about a paper cut to a quadruple amputee.
Sure, that metaphorical paper cut stings. I’m not denying that. But even as that metaphorical quadruple amputee I’m not allowed to show my own pain or even mention it - if I did, women everywhere would call me an Incel and tell me to “man up”, even if I had zero responsibility into whatever led to my current state.
So as a man, my only choice is to hide the pain, knuckle under, and force myself to carry on. Making it known in any way whatsoever would only make things worse, so I don’t. I just focus on intrinsic motivation and the things I can actually control, and try to find a little of my own peace in this world.
Because holding a victim mentality is one hell of a nerf. No-one is attracted to that.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support. Please delete this and repost at https://lemmy.world/c/dadforaminute. This is specifically a community for women, and I wish you well in your journey, but it is not the right place for this discussion.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support.
No, I do not. Society - and more specifically, women - have shown how they punish men who show weakness of any kind, and I am not about to intentionally or willingly shoot myself in the foot. I’m done with the psychological abuse, gaslighting, and DARVO attempts.
No, I did not. All I did was make a comparison. It’s like complaining about a paper cut to a quadruple amputee.
Sure, that metaphorical paper cut stings. I’m not denying that. But even as that metaphorical quadruple amputee I’m not allowed to show my own pain or even mention it - if I did, women everywhere would call me an Incel and tell me to “man up”, even if I had zero responsibility into whatever led to my current state.
So as a man, my only choice is to hide the pain, knuckle under, and force myself to carry on. Making it known in any way whatsoever would only make things worse, so I don’t. I just focus on intrinsic motivation and the things I can actually control, and try to find a little of my own peace in this world.
Because holding a victim mentality is one hell of a nerf. No-one is attracted to that.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support. Please delete this and repost at https://lemmy.world/c/dadforaminute. This is specifically a community for women, and I wish you well in your journey, but it is not the right place for this discussion.
No, I do not. Society - and more specifically, women - have shown how they punish men who show weakness of any kind, and I am not about to intentionally or willingly shoot myself in the foot. I’m done with the psychological abuse, gaslighting, and DARVO attempts.