「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.works to Showerthoughts@lemmy.world · 24 days agoIt must be frustrating for someone to be born into a royal family but being unable to succeed the crown because they were the second child... or be the first child but they were female...message-squaremessage-square22linkfedilinkarrow-up122arrow-down15file-text
arrow-up117arrow-down1message-squareIt must be frustrating for someone to be born into a royal family but being unable to succeed the crown because they were the second child... or be the first child but they were female...「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.works to Showerthoughts@lemmy.world · 24 days agomessage-square22linkfedilinkfile-text
minus-squareOnomatopoeia@lemmy.cafelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up3·24 days agoReally depends on the era. Today second-born gets all the benefits (or most anyway) without having to really be responsible for anything.
minus-square「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.worksOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up2·24 days agoI get to become a 黑孩子 for the first few years of my life… Mom always be like: “I had to pay several tens of thousands of ¥ rmb to get your legal identity”. Like I remember she say it so often during my childhood and constantly recounting the story of illegally giving birth to me… She makes me feel like I owe her a debt… like on top of the “debt” of her taking care of me… I already got rejected by a government… I’d feel very sad if she stops talking to me… Like… I feel like I need her affirmation to feel like I deserve to exist… otherwise I’m just some child that’s never supposed to be born and even the mom disinherited… Like… what right do I even have to exist in this world… So I really need my mom’s approval…
minus-squareɔiƚoxɘup@infosec.publinkfedilinkarrow-up3·23 days agoSorry dude, that sounds totally toxic. I hope you can reconcile or at least get out of that situation.
Really depends on the era.
Today second-born gets all the benefits (or most anyway) without having to really be responsible for anything.
I get to become a 黑孩子 for the first few years of my life…
Mom always be like: “I had to pay several tens of thousands of ¥ rmb to get your legal identity”.
Like I remember she say it so often during my childhood and constantly recounting the story of illegally giving birth to me…
She makes me feel like I owe her a debt… like on top of the “debt” of her taking care of me…
I already got rejected by a government…
I’d feel very sad if she stops talking to me…
Like…
I feel like I need her affirmation to feel like I deserve to exist…
otherwise I’m just some child that’s never supposed to be born and even the mom disinherited…
Like… what right do I even have to exist in this world…
So I really need my mom’s approval…
Sorry dude, that sounds totally toxic. I hope you can reconcile or at least get out of that situation.