• absentbird@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    Maybe that’s not a place for your opinions to be given prominence? Maybe it’s okay to follow thems and femmes into a community before asserting your perspective.

    I know that’s probably what you’re trying to do, and I know it can be difficult even when you’re trying your best. I try to remember that a lot of the people who I want to accept me have struggled to find acceptance in patriarchal heteronormativity, often with even more difficultly than I have faced.

    I guess all I’m really trying to say is that righteous resentment can be misread as tribalism, but it you really dig into the subject I you’ll find we’re all in this together.

    • TonyOstrich@lemmy.world
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      9 hours ago

      So we are literally back to the beginning. I have no where I can go to be myself. No where that is accepting of who I am.

      I understand what you are saying, but I have a hard time with the hypocrisy of someone preaching acceptance while actively judging me because of what I am rather than trying to understand me despite doing everything I can to communicate, connect and understand.