I had to go back to your original comment.

So… You give to receive?

And the answer that you just gave (and that I agree with) is . . . yes. We give friendship to get friendship. And yes, that looks different to different people. That is exactly what the OP is saying. If friend A has celebrated friend B’s wedding and babies and anniversaries, etc, but friend B hasn’t celebrated whatever milestones are important to friend A, it doesn’t necessarily mean friend B is a bad person or bad friend. It may just be that they hadn’t thought about celebrations outside of a very particular, traditional mindset.

On seeing this post, we can all ask ourselves, am I celebrating my friends in a way that is meaningful to them? Are they meeting my own emotional needs, or do I need to communicate more clearly to them? Have I even given thought to what my expectations or desires from my friends are?

I guess the disconnect is that I see posts like this as an opportunity for self-reflection and improvement. I still can’t tell from any of your comments what you find disagreeable about it.