I believe that some men can be shown the error of their ways. My biodad was a cheating, psychologically abusive piece of shit for most of my life. He eventually changed as a person and treats everyone well. But there were a lot of people in his life influencing him to better himself

My ex (and rapist), on the other hand, is still a piece of shit and probably always will be based on his life choices and the people he surrounds himself with.