• Malyca@lemmy.zip
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    24 hours ago

    I was that girl and my issues hurt the only person that’s ever been kind to me. Just an fyi sometimes we bite.

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    2 days ago

    It’s gross to specifically seek out someone specifically because they’re shy and with mental issues. Men who target people who are vulnerable are usually looking for someone easy to manipulate. Same thing as the “looking for someone a little autistic” trend. Or before that, “looking for a girl with anxiety”. They want the power and none of the responsibility of dealing with the downsides of the mental issue. Red flag behavior.

    ib4 the downvotes: I’m not the only one who noticed this bs and there’s a rabbit hole of discourse on this trend online.

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      18 hours ago

      So… Why exactly is it that you immediately jump to the conclusion that this meme means that the broken mess of a girl is “sought out”? Like it isn’t possible for people to MEET someone like this, LEARN about them and their issues, then decide to HELP/SUPPORT them? Just… straight to “seeking them out?”

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      2 days ago

      I’m not saying I specifically went after someone with parental issues, general anxiety, and other hyper specific mental or developmental issues. I am saying that the type of person that, when combined, these things generally cause is the personality I am attracted to. There are other traits that add to that but physical attraction only gets you so far compared to personality and mannerisms. It’s just that I’m attracted to a specific flavor of broken that complements my own

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      Sure, because no one who’s actually mentally healthy would specifically seek out someone with mental health problems. But if you happened to meet and clicked well, then sure.