My point is treat women like you’re trying to make a friend, not like a person you are trying to date because you don’t know enough about them as a person to even know if there will be a connection.
If you’d approach people you don’t know for dates but not friendship, that’s your own problem and maybe something to work on.
Women don’t want to be liked for how they look, they want to be liked for who they are.
Women don’t want to be liked for how they look, they want to be liked for who they are.
Hard disagree here. I love being liked for how I look.
I just don’t put out because you say I look nice. It’s a foot in the door at best, and only if you praise it in ways that don’t come across like you’re viewing me as a slab of meat with orifices.
Wanted to drop in and say I really appreciate your patient and well crafted responses in this thread! You get your points across in such an easy to read way. I really enjoyed the back and forth you had with others here :)
I have a pathological fear of making anyone’s day worse unless they give me a very good reason. I probably do need to work on that somewhat, but I also think many people feel too entitled to others’ time.
Not if your general treatment of strangers doesn’t involve talking to them.
My point is treat women like you’re trying to make a friend, not like a person you are trying to date because you don’t know enough about them as a person to even know if there will be a connection.
If you’d approach people you don’t know for dates but not friendship, that’s your own problem and maybe something to work on.
Women don’t want to be liked for how they look, they want to be liked for who they are.
Hard disagree here. I love being liked for how I look.
I just don’t put out because you say I look nice. It’s a foot in the door at best, and only if you praise it in ways that don’t come across like you’re viewing me as a slab of meat with orifices.
I mean unless I’m in a hook-up joint, duh.
Fair enough!
Wanted to drop in and say I really appreciate your patient and well crafted responses in this thread! You get your points across in such an easy to read way. I really enjoyed the back and forth you had with others here :)
That is so kind, thank you!
I have to agree. @Banana@sh.itjust.works has been a real champ at actually conversing.
Sounds like you need to fix your general treatment of strangers then, rather than fixing your approach to women you find attractive.
I have a pathological fear of making anyone’s day worse unless they give me a very good reason. I probably do need to work on that somewhat, but I also think many people feel too entitled to others’ time.
Yeah you need to work on that. Humans exist in community, we need it. Casual small talk with strangers is good for everyone
Small talk is the cultural “carrier wave”. It’s the never-ending buzz of shared values and experiences against which our personalities stand out.
Radios don’t work if they can’t hook into the carrier wave of the channel they’re on. Same for small talk and people.