Found this post thanks to @kasdeya@cryptid.cafe who posted it three years ago on her old timeline. Somebody boosted it on mine today and I knew I had to post it here.
⚠️ IMPORTANT REMINDER:
THIS IS A WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY & SPACE
See "Rule 1: Women only…
Trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them."
I’m a trans girl, and I really don’t pass (except for my voice kinda). I can really only dress and wear makeup for my own enjoyment.
Even with bold eyeliner, I still get he/him’d. I’m honestly not sure if it’s transphobia, acceptance of feminine men, or obliviousness.
Most days, I kinda just boymode (despite my nametag lol). I don’t even know anymore. Fuck gender norms or whatever.
Well, for what it’s worth you don’t owe anyone “femme-ness” or passing either. But I know that’s hard to internalize when the world is so hard on trans people.
(I also have not been able to accept myself and often put too much emphasis on appearance or passing 😥)
I suppose that’s true. I wish I looked more woman-y though.