• StickyDango@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    I’m going to share two really big ones for me that I’m still struggling with:

    Saying no and saying it firmly.

    Oversharing. No is no, and I don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything. If an awkward silence follows, then it’s them and not me.

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      4 days ago

      This one is so hard and so important! I also struggle with this. It’s on them and not you :)

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        4 days ago

        100%. I read somewhere that at 7 seconds, the silence becomes really awkward and more often than not, someone will break the silence. My ass of a director uses silence as a tool to get information from people.

        I used it back on him, and we had a staring contest. He doesn’t stop to chat anymore. Most definitely a win for me. He was a manipulative, backstabbing POS.