30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
As long as it isn’t interfering with your life, flick that bean. It’s not hurting anyone.
You don’t need to compare yourself to others. They’re not you. Twice a day doesn’t sound excessive to me. 20 times a day might, but twice? It’s your body.
Also keep in mind female masturbation has, until recently, been discouraged by western culture as deviant. It may be that some of your friends are downplaying their own regularity for social pressure (you already mentioned you vocally agree with what they say – others are probably doing that, too).
I do it every month or so for the dopamine, but I’m asexual. I’d say even a few times every day is fine. If you think it’s disruptive to your life, I’d recommend therapy, but that’s like if you can’t focus in a meeting because you haven’t done it for an hour and that’s all you can think about. Otherwise, just enjoy yourself. You’re fine.
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. For me it is between 2 and 4 times a day depending on several factors. It definitely isn’t disruptive, I just wanted to gauge what is normal for me against others.
I think everything is normal that is natural for you and isn’t disruptive.
Sorry for the Reddit link, and I don’t know your age, but you may find this discussion in the psychologyofsex sub interesting.
‘Normal’ is a very wide range.
That is really interesting, thank you. I think I may be an outlier, it definitely hasn’t really increased for me since I started and so far has not decreased in my early 30s
Some people in that thread said the same. Like I said, everything is normal. There’s a huge range, from a few times a day to a couple of times a year. Just don’t judge yourself against others, and especially wth something as personal as this. I think your 2-3 times per day is perfectly fine. /hugs
I guess in reality I am more interested in what other people’s cadence is than concerned about my own, but that is just my ever present voyeuristic tendency. It is good to know that I am fairly “normal” if that is even a thing. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
If you just randomly wanted to know everyone, I’m also an outlier from the opposite pole of the spectrum lol.
For my it’s maybe several times a year when I get curious enough to try. Never has worked out tho. I always compare it to that to me it probably feels like what touching your elbow is like. It just feels like my body and nothing “good” or interesting happens when I try. It’s like someone forgot to hook up my wiring or something. Always been this way.
Interesting. If you don’t mind me asking, do you get mentally excited? Do you feel physically attracted to people? An urge to do something?
Only on very very very rare occasions. Typically from watching sex scenes on TV and in movies. And I only very rarely watch shows with sex scenes anyway (not because I’m trying to avoid them…just because they don’t tend to show up in most media I consume). Tried porn but it doesn’t do it for me. When I’ve tried to do something about the feeling to see where it takes me, it unfortunately has just never led anywhere. I don’t generally view people that way outsode of TV/film. I guess my brain doesn’t spontaneously come up with themes like that outside of TV and film. I’ve always been curious to see how MDMA might affect someone like me.
Like others have said, normal is a very broad range and there’s nothing wrong with being an outlier at either end.
If you’re talking about the average or medium cadence, then your frequency is above average.
I’m kinda envious of you having so much time to yourself.
Haha! well I’ve always been able to achieve a satisfying outcome pretty quickly. Again compared to my friends, I am much faster, though porn helps a lot. I work from home and the time between meetings seems to be ideal.
Normal is between once a month to multiple times a day.
For males there’s some health benefits related to unloading the balls twice a week, reduced risk of prostate cancer. I’m not aware of studies focused on the topic for females, so that’s more of unknown ground today
I think the stat is at least 21x per month. So more like 5-6x per week for prostate health benefits.