• BaroqueW@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    If your first date is someone buying you things, not like an experience together like a coffee or a movie, then you’re really setting the tone to being purely transactional. That it’s books gives it some caché but it doesn’t really change the issue.

    • OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works
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      12 days ago

      I mean, a book store date really isn’t that bad. It gives you tons of easy opportunities to talk about each other’s interests. The atmosphere is often very relaxed, it isn’t loud so you can actually hear each other. It doesn’t have to end with one person buying books for the other, but it can.

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      12 days ago

      No.

      They shared one event from a date - and an incomplete one at that, you don’t know what books, how many, where, etc - and you promptly made up your own fantasy and then decided that made them a bad person.