Which phone should I pick up to run Graphene? like which do people like for this best?

I think this answer varies depending on how old you are. A 16 year old asking for dating advice is different from a 25 year old is different from a 34 year old.

When I was in my 20s I did a lot of sleeping around on apps. I had some personal tragedy, and being a slut was a way toxicly masculine society approved of a man expressing grief, especially since the hellscape of private insurance meant that it was a few years til I could afford to speak to a therapist.

I learned a lot of harsh lessons on apps. People will ghost you for no reason, even after a few weeks of sleeping together. Maybe you said something you didn’t think about, maybe they got a better offer, maybe it has nothing to do with you. That’s if you’re lucky, like I was, and got matches. The algorithm is harsh also, and these things become skinner boxes for incels (its no mistake the concept of “sexual market value” arose from the generation who learned courtship on these things). You take it too personal, or start looking at this system as a game to be optimized, and your already lost. I also callously ghosted some people, especially when they got too close. Maybe these were good fit.

In any case you learn to pick yourself up and move on. But you also learn to not to get too attached or invested. Which is obviously not a good lesson when it comes to relationships. Still there are some good lessons. In your 20s, you have to invest in yourself as a person. You’ll go to school, sure, but sometimes your degree isn’t really proof you know how to do something. So get out there and learn to do something. An artform, sure, like an instrument, or dance, but also any hobby that is not being mediocre at video games and shouting at a screen until the wee hours. Plenty of girls like anime, or D&D, or other traditionally “geeky” hobbies. The biggest thing you can do to up your game is learn to cook. Cooking and Writing have ingratiated me to most of my partners.

Literally anything to put you in front of real human beings in a social context.

The other thing I will say is that you’re 20s is for finding out what works for you sexually. Do you want someone to hit you? Tickle your feet? Shove something into your urethra? Do you have preferences for specific ethnicities or sizes? Do you get sprung when you see a posterior of a certain size? These are things you need to know about yourself, before you can start screening for a prospective partner who can check these boxes.

If you are in your 30s or older, apps have nothing to offer you at all. You should know by now what you like and what you do not. You really shouldn’t be looking for hook ups, especially with partners ten to fifteen years your junior, (unless you just got divorced and you need to prove yourself you still have it… the apps will not validate you). That assumes the apps do what they advertise, which they do not. They are there to annoy you into paying for premium services. The gender imbalance on something like Tinder is 80-20 (in case you were wondering where the incels got that number from) and its unknown how many of those are bots, or sex workers. Hook up apps, in this day and age, translate to a deluge of dick picks to any femme presenting user.

The last one I used was OKC, and that was in 2020. I was ghosted and I just decided I would rather be single. And I was, for about 5 years. I went on a few dates here and there but it didn’t go anywhere. I’m dating someone now and its going on 6 months. I really happy.

So I guess the last thing to say is, just learn to be okay being single. Keep accumulating experience, both in sexual matters and in life, and just understand that you might just be single and that’s okay. When the right one comes, you’ll know.

I think both things are true. Donald Trump has decided thousands and thousands of lives are worth the sacrifice, and the American populace has been conditioned by years and years of imperialism and war, in this region and others, to value those lives less, so of course they simply do not think about how those are real people. Donald Trump, subjected to those same forces, probably didn’t think that those lives were worth less consciously.

I am a case worker for people with disabilities, including several people on my caseload with autism. It does depend where you are and how autism presents, even within my small caseload there is a lot of variation. Even people with “heavy degree” autism can have lot of variation. In general, my agency and jurisdiction take the person centered planning and self determination pathways; the person if able, communicates to us what they do and not want in their plan, who they do and not want caring for them, and what they want us to request (funding from Medicaid. US). In many cases, they are in command of themselves enough to have that much control.

I suppose the question you ask is; what happens to the people who are non verbal, perhaps even combative. The answer is a little sadder. The agency I work for specializes in IDD but also community mental health. Our system famously dismantled the asylums in the 90s under Reagan austerity (good) but I do think there is an infinitesimally small group of people for whom community mental health is not meeting their significant needs.

In many cases, like you said family has high needs people in their homes, until parents die. Many times, siblings become their primary guardians. Many of them are living their own lives. There exist group homes, with round the clock care. Some of them will apply for co - guardianship (that is to say, the agency running the place). It is this threshold that my agency will hand them off to another more specialized one. Medicaid will pay for staffing but not rent, so this is what occurs for families without much money.

If there is enough money, then the family might get the person their own space, so they can remain independent. In that case, my agency can petition funding for as much staffing as they need (although 24 hour staffing is pretty close to institutionalizing someone. There exist a lot of institutional barriers to funding 24 hour staffing.) Either of these combine with rights restrictions, which I have thankfully never had to institute. These are special provisions in their plans, which are reviewed by a jurisdictional authority board. Example, a lock on the knife drawer, or some kind of safety mechanism to prevent the stove from being turned on.

If they are lucky, their family has some money, they can set them up with a place. Their siblings take over as guardian and they can continue with the same support apparatus that their parents set up, with the staff handling the day to day. If they do not come from some means, then they will likely end up in a group home. They might also end up in a group home if they are too combative to live on their own.