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Cake day: September 22nd, 2025

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  • I was surprised to learn that there are many women who have never had an orgasm. And that pressure to have one has become yet another social imperative women never asked for. Why shame the woman? Should they not have agency over their own bodies? The implication that it’s a failing of their partner suggests that it’s beyond their control.

    It feels like a very male-centric outlook to view orgasms as essential to sex. Of course, one would assume women could take matters into their own hands, so to speak, but I’ve been told by female friends that, for many women, it’s not as simple as that, psychologically.

    My own opinion is that, in our race for equality (which I support), we’ve often chosen to flatten gender differences rather than celebrate or acknowledge them. We’ve assumed that sexuality/desire/impulse/physiology is the same across genders, and that differences are down to individual mindsets rather than biological. I think it’s both, but we’ve neglected the latter.


  • She’s a billionaire. I doubt she even cares, but who knows. I think there’s more a psychological thing at play here. It’s clear a lot of people loved her work and feel hurt and betrayed that she became who she is. If she was just some other billionaire that was vocally anti-trans it wouldn’t be so painful. As a ‘cis male’ who was never into her books I can’t really relate, but there’ a clearly a large community of former fans who it has affected.