Reticulum has aspects that you might like, that solves the problem of dependence on domain names, allowing different types of devices to communicate, but also include TCP/IP options. It’s pretty cool.

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ime is hard to get normies to use Element/Matrix, to the point now I know this about Matrix (I’ve used Element for years and never realised it was closer to Bluesky) I’m going to look into what is functional and under active development in the XMPP space these days.