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  • I am completely devoid of any experience of this manosphere. When I grew up, I’d ask for help from girls because I was crying all the time and I didn’t want to be crying all the time. Later learned it was from trauma. But most of the girls and women I talked to would say some variation of “why are men so afraid to cry?” like lady I’m not afraid, I just don’t want to, because being sad sucks. I want to stop being sad.

    Or the doing the dishes, or taking care of babies, that was something that all the men did in my family, equally, going back to 1940’s Detroit.

    And this kind of culture was the only one I ever experienced in school, partly because almost all of my teachers were women.

    So to me, these memes about men being afraid to cry or do things seen as “feminine” are not just frustrating, they’re downright upsetting.

    I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but are you sure it exists to the degree you think it does? Like have you taken a survey and checked the numbers, and if you did, are you sure you’re not confusing somewhere like NYC with somewhere like Birmingham, Alabama?