My mother is an alcoholic and started drinking most when I was a teen. Our relationship suffered greatly for it. I pulled away in my young adult life. I still called every few months, but it was difficult and lots of guilt and anger.
I’m really happy that I maintained those calls. She got sober 5 years ago. We worked really hard at making time for each other after that and now we’re back to trying new foods together routinely (our old bonding activity!) and being much closer. Maybe not as close as we could have been, but I’m really grateful for the relationship we have now.
You’ve done really well getting that with her. Sometimes it’s not about having a great relationship it’s about having the best relationship you realistically can and I’m really glad you’ve done that
My mother is an alcoholic and started drinking most when I was a teen. Our relationship suffered greatly for it. I pulled away in my young adult life. I still called every few months, but it was difficult and lots of guilt and anger.
I’m really happy that I maintained those calls. She got sober 5 years ago. We worked really hard at making time for each other after that and now we’re back to trying new foods together routinely (our old bonding activity!) and being much closer. Maybe not as close as we could have been, but I’m really grateful for the relationship we have now.
You’ve done really well getting that with her. Sometimes it’s not about having a great relationship it’s about having the best relationship you realistically can and I’m really glad you’ve done that