Even if you do something that is an oxymoron, that doesn’t invalidate your position. I don’t know if this is a good comparison, but I guess you could ask the same with makeup. Even if I don’t do it by choice and wear it because I’m being pressured into it, doesn’t make me less of a feminist or “weird” or whatever. Peer pressure can be very very subtle and we have a lot of internalized stuff going on that we may not have noticed is there yet