It’s weird, but not NEARLY as weird as your obsession with age-gap relationships.
How many accounts are you going to get banned on this question?
It has zero impact on my life therefore I don’t care.
I’m going to go with bad, it makes me feel bad
My age gap is only 9 years but I was 22 at the time and I turn 40 this year and looking back I’m thinking “where were all the adults who were supposed to give me good advice??” Instead of encouraging me into a wildly imbalanced relationship which has been incredibly damaging to me
Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
Weird for sure. Why do you keep on asking this question in different ways on different accounts? Are you trying to justify it? Is it a fetish?
Inquiring minds want to know!
None of my business, they’re consenting adults, they can do whatever they want, and it’s honestly a bit creepy that you’re asking our opinion about it.
None of my fucking business.
See, that’s the thing about people being grown-ass adults. They get to decide what does and doesn’t work for them.
And, despite people that want to knee jerk the matter, there’s less difference between those two ages than there is between a 21 and 25 year old.
Personal development is heavily front loaded. By the mid to late twenties, most people are who they’ll always be. Friendship, romance, whatever. The only real barrier to age gaps are cultural touchstones and a handful of probable experiences (like job stuff, kids, etc) that aren’t even guaranteed to not be present.
Folks just get all het up over it because they’re morons that can’t look outside of themselves long enough to realize that their motivations and concepts towards other people aren’t actually universal.
Two consenting adults are just fine, and nobody else has an opinion that matters about them
It’s not about the age gap. They’re adults. The same rules apply to any relationship. If nobody’s being manipulated, abused, taken advantage of or harmed, then people need to mind their own business.
Am I, or someone I love, the 46 year old, or the 25 year old?
The only time I would care is if the answer to the first question is “yes” or if one of the parties isn’t acting consensually… Otherwise, its not any of my business, as they’re both consenting adults.
If more people worried about themselves, and less about what others are doing, the world would be better off.
Mind ya business, people.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it.
It’s also almost universally something that the people involved cannot take outside advice on. It seems to be one of those things that must be experienced personally.
I’d have some questions for the 46 year old. Mainly “can’t find someone your own age who’s naive enough to put up with your shit?”.
Call it ageism, but at 40 I can’t look at a 25 year old and see an equal adult. That’s still a kid in my head even if legally and practically speaking they’re an adult. I see a lot of dudes my age and older going after 20-25 year olds because their abusive tactics don’t work on older women.
Very telling that you think 20-25 year old women don’t have agency. I see that as a form of sexism.
Where do I say anyone doesn’t have agency? Check your assumptions, they’re causing you to make wrong inferences.
(46/2)+7 = 30. 30 is the floor. 25 is too young.
That whole rule is completely arbitrary and has no basis in reality.
Many things are completely arbitrary and yet have weight. Laws. Language. Being arbitrary is not sufficient reason to discard the idea on its own.
It has basis in reality in that it reflects the experience and judgement of many people. It’s a common expression. Given this post seeks the judgment of people, that basis is insufficient to discard it.
Your reasoning is bad.
People in different stages of life like that generally don’t have a ton to relate on. Can it work? Sure. Does it usually work long term? Nah
