And the answer that you just gave (and that I agree with) is . . . yes. We give friendship to get friendship. And yes, that looks different to different people. That is exactly what the OP is saying. If friend A has celebrated friend B’s wedding and babies and anniversaries, etc, but friend B hasn’t celebrated whatever milestones are important to friend A, it doesn’t necessarily mean friend B is a bad person or bad friend. It may just be that they hadn’t thought about celebrations outside of a very particular, traditional mindset.
On seeing this post, we can all ask ourselves, am I celebrating my friends in a way that is meaningful to them? Are they meeting my own emotional needs, or do I need to communicate more clearly to them? Have I even given thought to what my expectations or desires from my friends are?
I guess the disconnect is that I see posts like this as an opportunity for self-reflection and improvement. I still can’t tell from any of your comments what you find disagreeable about it.
I don’t understand your reply. What did I remove from context? The context was the post telling people to remember that our friends may have different life experiences than us and we should be sensitive to their emotional needs and celebrate them for their successes, even if they are on a different life track than us. We all get busy and tend toward self-focus, it’s good to have these kind of reminders.
Keep it in context.
Friendship is a two way street. You give, you get. (Giving and getting unspecified, what to give and get … that’s something different for everyone)
I had to go back to your original comment.
And the answer that you just gave (and that I agree with) is . . . yes. We give friendship to get friendship. And yes, that looks different to different people. That is exactly what the OP is saying. If friend A has celebrated friend B’s wedding and babies and anniversaries, etc, but friend B hasn’t celebrated whatever milestones are important to friend A, it doesn’t necessarily mean friend B is a bad person or bad friend. It may just be that they hadn’t thought about celebrations outside of a very particular, traditional mindset.
On seeing this post, we can all ask ourselves, am I celebrating my friends in a way that is meaningful to them? Are they meeting my own emotional needs, or do I need to communicate more clearly to them? Have I even given thought to what my expectations or desires from my friends are?
I guess the disconnect is that I see posts like this as an opportunity for self-reflection and improvement. I still can’t tell from any of your comments what you find disagreeable about it.
I don’t understand your reply. What did I remove from context? The context was the post telling people to remember that our friends may have different life experiences than us and we should be sensitive to their emotional needs and celebrate them for their successes, even if they are on a different life track than us. We all get busy and tend toward self-focus, it’s good to have these kind of reminders.