To me, someone who doesn’t even care about planning something as simple as a date, it’s an indicator they won’t care about most thing in the relationship and will try to ChatGPT their problems away.
I mean, the parameters for a first date are generally pretty simple and low-key. It’s generally type-of-food (lunch, dinner, coffee) plus type-of-activity (walk, movie, game-of-some-sort (bowling, axe throwing, whatever)). They’re using AI to accomplish a pretty simple task. Which means they’re also likely to offload harder tasks as well. I am not your mom, your secretary, your PA, your maid, your cook, your housekeeper, your personal shopper, etc, etc.
Yes but the purpose of the date isn’t just to go through the motions of a typical date. It’s to get to know each other. I expect a person to suggest a place they like, and that tells me something useful and opens the conversation.
It says they’re adventurous and it says what sort of things (at least food wise) interest them. It also potentially indicates a vibe. “Hey, I’ve been hearing that an izakaya style place opened up, and I don’t think you can go wrong with beer and fried food, you want to try it out?” Compared to “I’ve heard really good things about Ethiopian food, but I’ve never had it. Want to be adventurous?” Or “Let’s grab a coffee. Here I’ll look up small coffee shops a reasonable distance from both of us.” Or even “Do you like Mexican food? I’ll see what options are nearby.”
All of them say different things about the person and all of them are great ways to propose a plan for a date
You took like a tiny morsel of something, and just cranked it to 11. Please remove me from whatever timeline you are on, trust me we have zero in common. Our paths never need to cross again. I dont like the serially traumatized.
I mean maybe. I could see that to be the case, but it might also just be something sort of innocent. I tend to try to see the good in people when I can.
To me, someone who doesn’t even care about planning something as simple as a date, it’s an indicator they won’t care about most thing in the relationship and will try to ChatGPT their problems away.
I mean, the parameters for a first date are generally pretty simple and low-key. It’s generally type-of-food (lunch, dinner, coffee) plus type-of-activity (walk, movie, game-of-some-sort (bowling, axe throwing, whatever)). They’re using AI to accomplish a pretty simple task. Which means they’re also likely to offload harder tasks as well. I am not your mom, your secretary, your PA, your maid, your cook, your housekeeper, your personal shopper, etc, etc.
If they need assistance with something that simple, then she successfully dodged a bullet.
So did he for sure.
She’d probably expect him to take an active role in participating in their relationship, shudder.
Hahaha, good luck getting dates with your slop generator!
Yeah if you just aren’t paying any attention.
Yes but the purpose of the date isn’t just to go through the motions of a typical date. It’s to get to know each other. I expect a person to suggest a place they like, and that tells me something useful and opens the conversation.
Suppose someone suggests trying a new (to them at least) restaurant on a date? I guess that communicates something sordid.
It says they’re adventurous and it says what sort of things (at least food wise) interest them. It also potentially indicates a vibe. “Hey, I’ve been hearing that an izakaya style place opened up, and I don’t think you can go wrong with beer and fried food, you want to try it out?” Compared to “I’ve heard really good things about Ethiopian food, but I’ve never had it. Want to be adventurous?” Or “Let’s grab a coffee. Here I’ll look up small coffee shops a reasonable distance from both of us.” Or even “Do you like Mexican food? I’ll see what options are nearby.”
All of them say different things about the person and all of them are great ways to propose a plan for a date
Your t h e r a p i s t
And that’s fine. What are your thoughts on going home and screaming about it on social media and trying to farm that virtue?
A woman writing a post on social media is screaming in order to farm virtue? You sound like a little incel removed.
You took like a tiny morsel of something, and just cranked it to 11. Please remove me from whatever timeline you are on, trust me we have zero in common. Our paths never need to cross again. I dont like the serially traumatized.
Cry more, incel.
That’s not what an incel is junior
I guarantee you, old timer, this guy is involuntarily celibate.
I mean maybe. I could see that to be the case, but it might also just be something sort of innocent. I tend to try to see the good in people when I can.
… Except the woman that made the post?
Can you please just stop? No one’s a victim here.
Of course it’s innocent. He didn’t try to hide it from her. That doesn’t make it any less of a red flag.