Well, while I don’t think cutting communication is the right way of doing things in the OP’s case, I think it can make a lot of sense in the case you described.
A crazy thing to think for an American, but it can be very anxiety inducing to be around people with guns. If that’s the case, finding out your family member, someone closeset to you, bought a gun may very well trigger a very defensive response.
I get that. He’s been around guns a bit- not a lot, but several times. This is a small pistol that you would take camping. I grew up in the country and we had a similar one that we took when waking in the pasture in case of snakes or wild dogs. His brother does not carry it around. It’s kept unloaded and locked in a case, taken to the range for classes or practice, and then returned to it’s case. He doesn’t talk to us, but maintains contact with his trumpster racist ‘Christian’ in-laws. I’m proud of him for helping his wife keep a good relationship with her family despite their differences, but disappointed that he won’t do the same for us.
If the gun is treated like the hazard it is, I doubt it’d be the sole reason for such behaviour. Maybe he is just using it as an excuse when there are other issues he is not bringing up? But yeah, I can’t possibly know all the intricacies of your family relationships and playing a remote family therapist is not the best thing to do. I hope you can find some common ground one day.
And sorry for throwing you into a “stereotypical American” bucket like that, it’s a bit too easy to find such people nowadays.
Well, while I don’t think cutting communication is the right way of doing things in the OP’s case, I think it can make a lot of sense in the case you described.
A crazy thing to think for an American, but it can be very anxiety inducing to be around people with guns. If that’s the case, finding out your family member, someone closeset to you, bought a gun may very well trigger a very defensive response.
I get that. He’s been around guns a bit- not a lot, but several times. This is a small pistol that you would take camping. I grew up in the country and we had a similar one that we took when waking in the pasture in case of snakes or wild dogs. His brother does not carry it around. It’s kept unloaded and locked in a case, taken to the range for classes or practice, and then returned to it’s case. He doesn’t talk to us, but maintains contact with his trumpster racist ‘Christian’ in-laws. I’m proud of him for helping his wife keep a good relationship with her family despite their differences, but disappointed that he won’t do the same for us.
If the gun is treated like the hazard it is, I doubt it’d be the sole reason for such behaviour. Maybe he is just using it as an excuse when there are other issues he is not bringing up? But yeah, I can’t possibly know all the intricacies of your family relationships and playing a remote family therapist is not the best thing to do. I hope you can find some common ground one day.
And sorry for throwing you into a “stereotypical American” bucket like that, it’s a bit too easy to find such people nowadays.