andrew ta … t.a. = teachers assistant or total asshole depending on the day.
sometimes i feel like being an asshole to people other days i’ll teach people.
I want to say this with the greatest possible compassion - this is serious neckbeard energy. Like, your whole series of posts is.
Your logical points aren’t any real defence. You can logic all you want - but the medium is the message. Your choice of subject matter, how you choose to define it, and how you choose to talk about it, clearly displays a lot of bitterness towards women. I expect you’ll want to argue that I am talking about superficialities and ignoring the more important, deeper, logical points you are making. But this is sort of like showing up to a first date, unwashed and unshaved, wearing a shirt covered in holes and stains. Your presentation isn’t some inconsequential thing that only dumb people focus on - it is the most potent representation of who you a really are. If you show up to a first date without shaving, you are telling your date, in a way words cannot compensate for, that you do not care about them enough to complete simple, normal tasks. And when you talk about “teaching” women in the manner that you have, it is clear that your real goal is not the improvement of these women’s relationships, but for you to be able to criticize them and air your grievances for perceived previous offences you’ve suffered.
I’m not unsympathetic to your state of mind. I think any man who dates women, at some point or another, has had some similar bitterness. It is just human nature to project our frustrations, and think that “they” are the source of all our problems and if only “they” would change everything would be better. But it is also not a state of mind that is really helping you, so I suggest you chill out a little and open your mind to the possibility that you might be wrong.
I mean, the problem is that you see women as a “them” that might be the source of a problem or that might have issues.
If you really wanted to do this for the sake of the women you are teaching, you would focus on solving problems women typically encounter in the dating market. But the way you approach the topic shows you don’t really care about that. What you are actually fantisizing about is gathering all women together in a room and airing your grievances at them, and then all of them being shocked at how right you are and the terrible way they have acted, and then for them to all change their actions. You’re indulging in a fantasy where women validate your suffering and then solve your problems for you.
And while indulging in these fantasies may feel good in the moment, it shows off a lot of bitterness (hence the downvoting) and doesn’t do anything to help you actually achieve anything you want.
I want to say this with the greatest possible compassion - this is serious neckbeard energy. Like, your whole series of posts is.
Your logical points aren’t any real defence. You can logic all you want - but the medium is the message. Your choice of subject matter, how you choose to define it, and how you choose to talk about it, clearly displays a lot of bitterness towards women. I expect you’ll want to argue that I am talking about superficialities and ignoring the more important, deeper, logical points you are making. But this is sort of like showing up to a first date, unwashed and unshaved, wearing a shirt covered in holes and stains. Your presentation isn’t some inconsequential thing that only dumb people focus on - it is the most potent representation of who you a really are. If you show up to a first date without shaving, you are telling your date, in a way words cannot compensate for, that you do not care about them enough to complete simple, normal tasks. And when you talk about “teaching” women in the manner that you have, it is clear that your real goal is not the improvement of these women’s relationships, but for you to be able to criticize them and air your grievances for perceived previous offences you’ve suffered.
I’m not unsympathetic to your state of mind. I think any man who dates women, at some point or another, has had some similar bitterness. It is just human nature to project our frustrations, and think that “they” are the source of all our problems and if only “they” would change everything would be better. But it is also not a state of mind that is really helping you, so I suggest you chill out a little and open your mind to the possibility that you might be wrong.
At no point did I say that they are the source of all the problems nor that they are the only one with the issues.
I mean, the problem is that you see women as a “them” that might be the source of a problem or that might have issues.
If you really wanted to do this for the sake of the women you are teaching, you would focus on solving problems women typically encounter in the dating market. But the way you approach the topic shows you don’t really care about that. What you are actually fantisizing about is gathering all women together in a room and airing your grievances at them, and then all of them being shocked at how right you are and the terrible way they have acted, and then for them to all change their actions. You’re indulging in a fantasy where women validate your suffering and then solve your problems for you.
And while indulging in these fantasies may feel good in the moment, it shows off a lot of bitterness (hence the downvoting) and doesn’t do anything to help you actually achieve anything you want.