• Velma@lemmy.today
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      15 hours ago

      And men I don’t know also pose the greatest risk to me as a woman. It is what it is.

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        14 hours ago

        I’m glad you can rationalize your prejudice, but nobody should have assumptions made about them for aspects of themselves they cannot control. It isn’t what it is, it’s never too late to change into a good person.

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          14 hours ago

          It’s not so much that I make assumptions about individual men rather than it influences how I see and move through the world. I stay alert in areas where I’m vulnerable, I have a resting bitch face, I don’t take the window seat on the bus, etc.

          Misogynistic ideas like women are better shaved don’t always come from men, but it’s usually coming from men. And that’s just my personal experience.

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            13 hours ago

            It’s not so much that I make assumptions about individual men

            I’m sorry, are you backtracking? I thought you said

            I do tend to assume that men I don’t know are malicious as a baseline

            Being vigilant isn’t prejudice, being vigilant because of race, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc, is.

            Misogynistic ideas like women are better shaved don’t always come from men, but it’s usually coming from men. And that’s just my personal experience.

            Okay, so what? Personal experiences aren’t an excuse for prejudice.

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              3 hours ago

              I wouldn’t have to be as vigilant if men weren’t a danger to me. That’s just the truth of the world.

              A man can easily overpower me anytime, anywhere. Of course I have to move through the world somewhat prepared for those situations.

              I’ve only ever come across men that are vocal about women with body hair.