As a guy, I would happily use an app where I wasn’t expected to message first, but I don’t know of any that exist. Even Bumble moved away from the “women message first” model for whatever reason.
Just can’t seem to get away from those traditional gender roles, can we?
I saw plenty of women on Bumble, when the women had to message first, that had “I don’t message first” in their bio. I gave up on the apps. They are the worst thing on the planet for your self esteem and mental health.
I tried signing up for eHarmony, back when that was a thing. I find it funny now because I’m happily married, but when I set up my profile the website basically told me that it couldn’t match me with anyone. Felt like shit for a while, but then I realized it’s the apps that are full of shit. Meeting people doesn’t take an app, and sometimes the apps proactively make meeting people more difficult.
I can’t do these apps anynore. I just go about my life and talk to real people. Sometimes I make friends, sometimes I can get a date. I just can’t think about it anymore.
Not true.
I hate to explain myself, but I often draw an exaggerated reality of my perception.
