ChexMax

I have all my vaccines, as does my kid. I’m pro vax, and information bullied family members into covid vaccines. I made everyone close to us get a TDAP if they wanted access to my infant.

That said, I have vaccine skepticism! Doctors unfortunately have lost my blanket trust (if they haven’t lost yours, talk to some of the women in your life to hear how they’ve been treated, especially around birth), and drug companies absolutely should not be trusted, at least here in the US. It’s not damaging to question science. Hell, RFK Jr. Is in charge of some of the “science” happening at the top of the country right now. Science is a real broad term.

Not to mention she has dementia! Even if she somehow got it on her own, she suffers from, “I don’t know what’s going on right now!” So how is she supposed to follow the rules?

Childcare costs halve or something but they don’t go away. You still need care coverage for an hour to four hours every workday, all school holidays, summers, sick days, half days, snow days… and that’s assuming your job doesn’t operate outside school hours (which in the US change every few years as children progress), or expect you to be on call.

Usually the type of careers with that kind of flexibility are either top of the field or the very bottom, so it feels kind of hopeless, damned if you work, damned if you don’t.

Not surprised art school students were ahead, but this didn’t reach my part of the US / suburbia until like 2005

Literally no thoughtful or reasonable sexual partner is going to say they prefer the type of penis it’s impossible for you to have, so that data is wildly biased.

I’m a woman and I’ve been with both. I don’t really care either way (and I feel confident most women who have actually been with both don’t really care) but my best lasting lover by far was uncut. I will not circumcise any sons I have.

My thought as well. Humanizing yourself makes me think about the situation you’re in to be driving door dash and the situation I’m in to be ordering it. I ran into my diaper wipes deliverer yesterday and though should I tip? For delivery from a website, something i don’t tip for. But I made contact with the driver and I was grateful for their service in delivery. I think it’s human nature to be easier to tip light if you can forget a human person was involved

Maybe just plain ol carpenter. Like part of “cool” is unaffected or aloof. A dude or chick who builds their own home and the furniture inside? That’s just cool. A lot of the stuff listed here actually takes a decent amount of nerdiness or at least passion. While the jobs are awesome, idk that they’re the coolest.

I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.

That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.

Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.

It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.