I haven’t talked to her in 20+ years, soooo… 🤷‍♀️

She said things that made me spiral yesterday, and lacks any self awareness of her hypocrisy

My relationship is honest, loving, and supportive. I’m in my 30s with 1.5 kids so the support mostly flows towards me right now, but my mom and I both are caregivers for her mom who is in very poor health. It’s half straining for our relationship, half In the trenches together. In most areas she’s my role model. She was born to be a mother. It doesn’t come as naturally to me but I aspire to be as present, patient, and involved as she was.

Fine I guess. Used to be closer but I think I’m, well, not a disappointment but I haven’t ticked the life boxes my sister has. And now my sister has a child and my mother moved to the same city as her (further away from me) I feel our relationship isn’t anywhere near as close as it once was.

High expectations. I got parentified when my sister came along and I was still living at home. But she will be there for me when I really need it, and I still love her.

I dont have a “classic” motherly bond to her but shes more like a passive supporter. Wenn i have a problem i can always ask for help but its a bit more like shes a close family friend instead of mother emotionally

I would say distant. I’m still keeping up appearances that everything is fine between us, but deep down I feel that our relationship won’t last much longer. I need to tell her and my dad that I’m trans soon, and I’m afraid they won’t be accepting at all considering they’re both religious and politically conservative. They wouldn’t acknowledge my neurodiversity even, so telling them I’m trans will probably not go over well at all. There’s a slim hope my mom might accept me in isolation, but I’m afraid my dad will end up pushing her not to.

In my youth, strained. After she accepted I was serious about my non-procreation thing, we’re actually very, very close.

Sigh. Even after all the shitty things my mom has said over the years, I still love her and I miss her. I wish I could talk to her. I saw her last year for the first time in about 10 years, she’s starting to look like a little old lady. She’s getting smaller and more frail, her voice is even getting small. I miss her.

I wish I could heal what’s broken between us and I wish my mom could be in my life, but it must start with an apology from her.

Very stressfull when I was still living with her (~18 years ago) but now it’s pretty good. When I came out as trans to her (first person of the family that I told) she immediately accepted me as her daughter <3

We are both autistic and didn’t know it for 33 years of our parent-child-relationship :D I’d say we aren’t as emotionally close as some other people and their parents but we both like it that way.

Love my mom, she’s been in my corner through everything. She’s one of the first people I came out to and she’s done so much to support me over the years. She took me clothes shopping when I first came out, helped me with learning how to do my makeup, always gendered me correctly. I’m super grateful to have someone like her in my life. She’s such an amazing person and role model.

She’s my best friend, it wasn’t always good, we had some tough times, but we worked through it.

Shes getting old and it worries me that I’m missing out on having her in my life since I moved to the other side of the world.

At the moment a bit strained, I’m going to be having a conversation with her soon that may or may not clear the air

We’ve had difficulties ever since I went to college and realised how controlling and judgemental she is, she also doesn’t like how I’ve turned out as a person (I’m artistic, I don’t conform to her expectations of what a woman should be and act, and also being autistic probably adds to my ‘weirdness’)

I’m beginning to realise that I have ingrained ableism, coupled with horrendous masking courtesy of her

cheers mum 👍

Pretty quiet since she committed.