• Soup@lemmy.world
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    8 hours ago

    Ok, but as long as the hair isn’t actually doing anything then what’s the problem? Cancer kills you and dick cheese is fucking nasty as hell(especially in the context of expexting someone to allow it into their body). Excessive, unwashed body hair that is producing an odor is nasty because it affects other people and cannot be easily ignored, but someone saying “that’s gross because now I don’t find you attractive” does not deserve any more of an answer than “go fuck yourself.” That kid’s question got a better answer than it warranted.

    You write a lot for someone who doesn’t understand communication.

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      1 hour ago

      There’s a lot to unpack there. I’ll choose

      unwashed body hair that is producing an odor

      Hair doesn’t smell.

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      then what’s the problem?

      You write a lot for someone who doesn’t understand communication. [200 words btw did I time travel back to fucking 4th grade?]

      The fact you read that and couldn’t even grasp that there fucking is no problem with leg hair and I’m not saying there is one and I even directly said “leg hair on women is fine” is just *chef’s kiss*. You missed the excruciatingly obvious point of the entire comment – for which apparently even “a lot” of unambiguous clarification wasn’t enough. Fucking Mordecai’d that shit.

      Who exactly doesn’t understand communication here? The one who thinks 200 words is “a lot” of writing?

      • Velma@lemmy.today
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        8 hours ago

        I think the motivation for the second comment in the screenshot is what is really in contention here. Personally, I read the second comment as an assertion that, similar to tumors, women are not supposed to have body hair even if it grows on them.

        Now that doesn’t mean I think you’re incorrect. Just the other commenter was picking up on something else in the post.

        • Fawkes@lemmy.zip
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          You’re perceived intention should be irrelevant during an argument. Either expose the belief directly so it can be engaged with honestly, or focus on the logic of the argument being made. It is entirely possible to be both correct in your argument and incorrect in the foundational belief. But engaging with a factually correct argument with the assumption that it was borne from a place of ignorance just makes YOU less capable of being reasonable.

          The first poster made a claim, and assigned faulty logic as justification.

          The second poster pointed out the flaw in this logic.

          The third poster ignored the logic argument entirely and resorted to an appeal to outrage rather than the structure of the argument itself.

          Personal experience, beliefs, gender, identity. All of these points are entirely irrelevant to the argument at hand. The title of this post was about logic. The second commenter pointed out a legitimate logical error, and the third commenter exposed themselves at appealing to indignation and dressing it up as an argument. You (royal you) shouldn’t support bad reasoning just because it agrees with you.

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          8 hours ago

          It’s not impossible that they are, but given there’s a perfectly logical and highly plausible explanation that they’re making an entirely cogent point (because the argument is severely flawed, and they point out the flaw accurately), I choose to not just assume that they’re a shitty person who thinks women are icky and need to shave their legs or they’re gross – like the third comment from “geekandmisandry” (really self-reporting the bias there) does instead of just… asking them to clarify.

          • Velma@lemmy.today
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            7 hours ago

            The majority of men do expect and prefer that women are shaved, thus the assumption.

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              7 hours ago

              The majority of men do expect and prefer that women are shaved, thus the assumption.

              You know, I wasn’t going to call it out in my original comment because it was beside the overall point, but “geeksandmisandry” and now you are interestingly assuming the gender of an anonymous user with a default pfp and the gender-neutral username “dinogatrr”.

              I don’t think even if they were a man that this would be a good reason to assume they’re a shitty person (especially because the sample of “men on Tumblr” is going to be vastly different than “men overall” or even “men on social media overall”). But it is an interesting assumption on top of an assumption: they’re a man, and they’re a shitty person who thinks women’s legs are naturally icky.

              • Velma@lemmy.today
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                7 hours ago

                It’s from experience. Having moved through this world as a woman, these types of views primarily come from men. I’ve had women call out my body hair before because women work to uphold the patriarchy as well.

                The phrasing and casual belief that even though women grow body hair it should be seen like cancer and taken off of the body sounds like a man to me.

                I’m happy to stand corrected, but I’m also not dumb enough to ignore the teachings I’ve gleaned from living as a woman.

                • TheTechnician27@lemmy.world
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                  7 hours ago

                  I’m happy to stand corrected

                  Which is easy to say when your hypothesis is functionally unfalsifiable (used heuristically in support of another functionally unfalsifiable hypothesis).

                  I can’t stop you from believing it; I can push back and say it’s vibes on top of vibes to legitimize your assumption about a random person you’ve never spoken to who said something that’s totally benign and entirely correct unless you actively ascribe malice to it.

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                    6 hours ago

                    I do tend to assume that men I don’t know are malicious as a baseline because they are a danger to women.