• Velma@lemmy.today
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    16 hours ago

    Nah I divorced a man like you guys in here who didn’t feel the need to lift a finger after coming home from work. Or worse - not do much and still complain about doing everything while trying to get your dick wet between the baby crying.

    It’s totally crazy how women need time to heal after birth, right guys? Huh huh huh but she won’t fuck me QQ

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      14 hours ago

      You need some therapy. You divorced his dumb ass and you clearly have strong feelings about it still. Trauma is valid, but taking it out on an entire gender isn’t.

      The entire point of this sub thread is “this still sometimes happens to guys who aren’t massive piles of shit”, and all of your responses amount to “No, you are all piles of shit! Only piles of shit ever feel this way, so by definition you’re a pile of shit!”

      It’s some really disgusting circular logic. There are horrible assholes out there like you say. There’s way too many of them. But you keep making massive assumptions about the commenters here with no evidence whatsoever, then burning the assumptions at the stake as truth.

      Just give it a rest. I’m truly sorry your ex was terrible, and it sounds like divorce was letting him off easy.

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        14 hours ago

        The entire point of this sub thread is “this still sometimes happens to guys who aren’t massive piles of shit”

        The prevailing belief in here that women don’t want sex themselves and that they are the arbiters of who gets or deserves sex is inherently sexist to begin with - there are so many reasons why someone’s libido may tank (men and women) and to cry about not getting your dick wet because you changed some diapers is tone deaf.

        The first couple of years with children are intense. Kindness and empathy and communication will get you much farther in a relationship than letting resentment build. On both sides.

        It can take years for women to fully heal and feel back to semi-normal in their bodies. Yeah, I’m going to side eye men that think their wife should be back to banging every day after a couple of months.