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  • Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zonetoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•I'm 29 and my partner is only 28 am I exploiting her?English
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    6 days ago

    My partner is a week shy of being exactly 5 years older than me, I’m 35, she’s 40. Most of the time we’re basically the same person and that 5 year gap is basically nothing. We were both in pretty comparable stages in our lives when we got together ten years ago, there wasn’t an imbalanced power dynamic from her being older than me.

    But sometimes something comes up where that gap falls in just the right spot that something foundational to her childhood I was just too young for and for a brief second she cringes real hard and is just like “God dammit you’re just a baby!”

  • Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zoneto Memes of Production@quokk.au•Weirdos obsessed with kids genitals need inspectingEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Ideally they wouldn’t need to force anything. These conversations could just happen openly enough and early enough that those decisions could be made in time for them not to be an issue.

    But given that’s not the world we live in, generally what’s been done previously is monitoring by a doctor for things like serum testosterone levels like they already do for HRT regimens. That would unfortunately open the door for situations where a kid might not qualify depending on how early they might be in their transition but unfortunately as long as our mere existence as trans people is questioned and kids are told to wait and suffer through puberty for bodies that don’t align with their identity “just in case” they “aren’t actually trans” because “what if they regret it later?” then there’s not a whole lot we can really do about that aspect.

  • Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zoneto Memes of Production@quokk.au•Weirdos obsessed with kids genitals need inspectingEnglish
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    6 days ago

    This conversation doesn’t exist in a vacuum. You also have to remember that things like puberty blockers exist that would delay the onset of that male puberty and with them those kids could start HRT and effectively go through a female puberty.

    These kids don’t just decide one day they’re trans, almost all of them they’ve known for years. Most all of the suddenness comes from finally getting up the courage to come out if there is any. I knew at 8 that being a boy felt wrong but I didn’t have the words to express the problem I felt. Especially because the idea of being a girl felt just as wrong for different reasons. Those feelings only intensified as I went through puberty. I didn’t figure out nonbinary was something someone could even be until I was 26.

    If there wasn’t such a stigma attached to all of this and people could just get the gender affirming care they need most of these “issues” wouldn’t exist.

  • Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zoneto Memes of Production@quokk.au•Weirdos obsessed with kids genitals need inspectingEnglish
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    7 days ago

    I’m reference to the trans sports bans we already had a lot of data on this. That data showed that after at least 2 years of HRT virtually all advantage a trans woman might have had from going through a male puberty is gone.

    It’s not about separating sports by gender, it’s about the only way to enforce a trans sports ban being genial inspections and them being wholly unnecessary because we already had protocols for this. The average person just didn’t know they existed so when chuds started crying “men in women’s sports” people latched onto it even though it doesn’t happen.

    By the time trans women are allowed to compete with cis women it’s either a group of prepubescent kids in which case what advantage? or they’ve been on HRT for long enough that they no longer have any advantages compared to their cis peers.