Obligatory age research finding: those 100+ year olds may not be 100+ years old after all.
The most striking thing I ever read on aging:
From a geriatric,
Life is kind of like taking a nice long shower. When you’re young, it feels good and invigorating. But as you get older, it’s like they just keep turning down the hot water until there’s nothing good about it anymore, but you’re still now allowed to get out.
My mother was in her 70’s, diabetes, bad stroke in her 50’s, heart problems, kidney problems creeping in. She had been in the ER life or death quite a few times. Hearing was marginal, vision was marginal, most of her diet needed to be bland and blended smooth.
“If I go in again and they need to do something to save me, just let me go, promise me that, I’m miserable all the time and there’s nothing left they can do for me to make it any better.”
Reminds me of an old Nick Swardson joke.
“How are you doing grandma?” “Well I woke up again… and all of my friends are dead.”
My father rn, only in his late eighties. Slowly letting himself die, won’t do anything to help himself or let us help him except bring food and wine and do his shopping. Literally ran out of tp and used paper towels instead of going out and buying some. And he can drive and get around but won’t for most basic shit. Fucking tiring shit
late eighties
tiring shit
Yeah I’d be done too.
My FIL was like that, but she had cut the toxic cord well before he passively killed himself.
Unfortunately he ended up dying on Valentine’s Day which really soured the holiday for a while.
My dad too, same thing. Only out of bed for a few hours a day, not because he can’t, because he won’t. Except I think he’s still in his 70s… Borderline to hit 80s tho
i read an interesting post under a Who live video a couple years ago, Roger Daltry was 78 or thereabouts, singing on stage and dancing about and someone was commenting “he’s the same age as my grandfather, who can barely shuffle down the hallway in slippers”
I’m 60 …sigh.
In the bible Methuselah loved till 939 years old
Can you imagine how fed up he was getting out of bed in the morning
Every day would be ground hog day
Who did he love for 939 years? That’s solid relationship stability.
You lack imagination. If I knew I had that much time I’d just start perfecting different skills for fun.
Yeah! When’s the last time you did something for the first time?
that’s actually one theory of why time seems to get faster as you get older. You do fewer new things, so it just appears that time is getting faster.
Well I remember my friend’s grandfather. He was over 90 and he was having health problems. They were taking him to emergency even though he didn’t wanted. One day I helped him out of the car after another emergency visit, asked him how he is… He spit on the ground and said “I couldn’t fucking die today either!”. I was young so, it was weird for me. After all these years I understand him now. I’m not a believer but I hope he is resting in peace.
i know the feeling. My grandma lived until she was abotu 97 or 98. I think she wanted nothing more than to die. She was in constant pain, tired of being alive etc.
There was a biologist here in australia before VAD was passed who went to europe to die, because they had VAD. I forget his name, but australia now has VAD under very specific criteria. *: found it: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-44069885
I’m only middle aged, and I’ve wanted to die since i was a teenager. Shit fucking sucks.
Honestly, I think VAD should be available for EVERYONE, not just if you’re terminally ill. Why should i have to live this stupid shitty life because it will upset someone? I don’t really even have anyone. It’s just me and my cats. They would find a new home. But i have to live this shitty life because… no one will be upset? Fuck this shit.
I have a myriad of mental health issues. Why can’t i die because my life fucking sucks balls? Why should i have to live my life because, uhh… no one… will be upset? I’m afraid to do it myself again, because i could make shit even fucking worse. Why can’t I have VAD?
Yeah, should be some scheduled thing with maybe a few therapy sessions or something first (so people don’t just do it from a random shitty day), but it really doesn’t have to be your problem that others would rather you live. Unless you have kids still depending on you, because that’s someone you’re actually responsible for.
Yeah. My grandmother is in that situation. She is a grandmother to me but she’s a great great grandmother for some of my family.
She moved in a nursing home more than a decade ago expecting to be there for a few years but she’s now 98, losing eyesight, hearing and mobility, and hopes it will end at some point. When she caught covid we thought she might have got what she wanted, but no.
That’s horrible. Should be a humane way to move on.
She is trying to get medical assistance in dying, which is possible here under certain conditions, but just not for people in her case. She’s a Catholic so, well… she’s praying.
I’m sorry, I shouldn’t laugh, but I can’t help but picture her kneeling, saying “please lord, let it be today…”
Genuinely scary to think that I might only be 50% of the way through my life. I was looking forward to a nice rest.
The different kind of midlife crisis
Mid-century crisis.
How did it feel before you were born?
After you die, it’s like that again.
That thought used to scare me to death. Now that I’m older… Yeah, I can let all this grief go when it’s time. It’ll be nice.
“Being dead doesn’t scare me. The process of dying – such as, of cancer – can be terrifying.”
-Christopher Hitchens, dying of cancer at the time (paraphrased)
120 is my goal. I want to be able to say i can remember the 1900s, 2000s and see what 2100 looks like.
Ain’t doing it without scientific help, but there is very very small chance I could get there.
Yes younglings, I remember a time when the internet didn’t exist!
Yes younglings, I remember a time when the internet didn’t exist!
Depends on what date you pick to assign to the birth of the internet… RFC 675? Then I am younger, but not by much.
If we listen to Google’s AI, “the internet officially began on January 1, 1983, when ARPANET officially adopted the TCP/IP standard” than I am significantly older than the internet.
I don’t consider the ARPANET stuff the internet.
It’s the precursor. TCP/IP adoption isn’t a bad place to consider what is the internet. I think adoption/invention of WorldwideWeb is too late though I could agree to use it as the beginning of what most people think of what started the internet we see today.
I think somewhere in the 80s is accurate, however it doesn’t really matter as the internet wasn’t suddenly everywhere. It took a LOT of time to reach a lot of places so one can remember what the world was like without the internet, even if it was already around at that time.
I remember when most people didn’t have a computer let alone access to a modem of some kind.
You might be immortal. The only way you’d find out you’re not is if you die.
According to John Mayer, “I am invincible as long as I’m alive”
"Some men achieve immortality through their work.
Some men achieve immortality through their children.
I want to achieve immortality through Not Dying."
-Woody Allen
I achieved immortality through some rather embarrassing news articles that still show up in search results.
